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The cool girl is one of the guys. One of the lads. The antithesis of the girly girl. She drinks beer, and straight liquor, she can hold her own in the lad’s banter arena, reeling off a pithy retort to an approving chorus of “wheeeeyyyy!” anytime.
There’s a lot going on in the old relationship department recently. Not just for me, either. It seems everyone I went to school with got married this summer.
So relationships have been on my radar a fair bit, and I’ve been thinking about what it is that makes me feel like I’m in a good one (which I do). At the beginning of my relationship, there was a lot of “OHH so this is how it’s supposed to be, I didn’t know!”
Along with that, I realised why a few of my previous relationships haven’t worked out, and it isn’t necessarily for the reasons I attributed to it at the time. Now, I’ve learned a lot more about what I need and want from a relationship, as well as what the other person probably needs and wants.
There is no way you’re not going to make mistakes in a relationship, but I like to believe they teach you something about what’s right for you. There are relationships I had as a teenager that always make me cringe to think about now. I question my sanity, as I’m sure most people do, and wonder how I couldn’t see what was really going on at the time. The short answer is because I was, like, 16, and I was only just starting to learn about myself and what ‘myself’ is like in a relationship with someone else.
A few weeks’ ago, I forgot that I’m not 18 any more and I went out with my boyfriend and drank double vodkas.
You know how everyone has at least one drink that is just not safe? Vodka is that drink for me.
Of course, I wake up feeling like I’m on a Ferris Wheel despite lying perfectly still in bed with my foot on the floor to ‘ground’ me.